“This is the first time I’ve ever liked an image of myself.” -Pamela
Pamela wrote to me a few months ago and was so open and honest about where she currently is in her life. She said she believed that I could give her something she’d not yet found with a photographer: a boost in confidence. Pamela said, “I really want to do this but I’m also a little scared.”
Hey, don’t we all know how she feels? Heck, I’m a photographer for crying out loud and I get antsy in front of the camera, too.
I hosted Pamela at the beautiful Hotel Du Vin, Winchester and gave her a great experience with professional hair and makeup, champagne and strawberries. And to top it all off, she was posed from head to toe to bring out the beauty in her body, her face, her expression.
One of the beautiful things that often happens during these boutique sessions is that when a woman is given space to breathe and have attention lavished on her, she so often shares beautiful pearls of wisdom, revelations about herself and things that we can all benefit from knowing. Pamela is no exception. I heard her share with her makeup artist that, “something happens when you turn 50. It’s like suddenly the world starts to ignore and disregard you.” She continued, “…I never thought it would happen to me, but it has.”
How does that make you feel? Whatever age you are reading this. Younguns, take heed and remember that all women, whether they’re 18 or 50+ deserve honour and regard. As a society, we put such an emphasis on youthfullness. On flat skin and unflat chests. But who really deserves a round of applause is women who can teach us a thing or two. Who have lived life quite a bit more than we. Who can tell you what really matters when they look back. And still, they are young enough to have so very much in life to look forward to.
50 isn’t a death sentence. It’s so often called the “wrong side of 40”. But man…I look forward to being 50 someday. My kids will be self sustaining. My career will finally be really well off the ground and paying off. I’ll be able to enjoy the fruits of my labour.
So take from Pamela this pearl of wisdom: don’t disregard women who are 50+. Pamela is bright. Pamela is vibrant. Pamela feels young inside. So should we all.
Here’s what Pamela had to say about her boutique session:
I decided to do this photo shoot as part of my quest to get back on my feet after last year’s confidence-bashing. I was pretty low, and I had started to worry that the best part of my life was over and it was all down-hill, so I needed to find ways to combat that feeling. Having survived a tough time last year, I decided that this year would be all about feeling better about myself, having fun and trying new things, which is why Elizabeth’s Boutique experience appealed.
My good friends will know that I am not always too comfortable with photos of myself, so I was quite nervous about doing this, but I had a really great day, despite being outside my comfort zone. Elizabeth and the team were great and I enjoyed having my hair and make-up done, dressing up and posing;it was actually a really nice change to be the centre of attention, and I felt very pampered and spoiled.
Although most of my friends had already seen some of the pics online, they all exclaimed over the mounted prints when I showed them – they look so classy in the linen book that comes as part of the experience. I would really recommend this for anybody who is looking for ways to boost their confidence.